Europe trip

What an incredible trip. First vacation in a year. I couldn’t believe it. 3 weeks in Europe. Started in Sitges for Bear Week which was absolutely incredible. Definitely not your typical gay event.

Compulsory Aperol Spritz…I was soooo tired

Then on to Barcelona which as a tourist, doing typical touristy things, wasn’t all that remarkable but I could definitely tell the city is a place I’d like to live. I’m definitely going back.

Barcelona – their Central Park, still tired LOL
Barcelona
Barcelona
Barcelona – Gaudi designed park/planned community

Next was the South of France and the various beautiful cities there. Antibes was the first stop and my home base to visit a dear friend. Antibes was very unexpectedly good. Very beautiful and excellent food. I could definitely spend a week there just to relax and experience France at its finest. A very young city as this city is the capitol of yachting in France and one of the biggest yachting ports in Europe so there’s A LOT of yachties there. Monaco was a much as well. It’s gorgeous. Mothing more than beautiful really, but a must stop anyway. A short trip to Cannes, which I wouldn’t mind visiting again. It’s beautiful and expectedly more busy and more city-like than Antibes for obvious reasons. Another short trip to Nice (my second time there) to go out as it’s really the only city in the South of France that is good for gay nightlife. I really love Nice. It feels like pre-Euro Paris to me. Much more relaxed scene than Paris but equally as fun for me.

Monaco
Monaco+
Monaco
Monaco
Sailing in Antibes – My happy place

Next big stop, Paris! Yay! Even though the city has changed dramatically over the 25 years I’ve been traveling here, it’s still…well…Paris. I don’t think much more needs to be said than that frankly.

Axis of Culture in Paris

Last stop on the trip, London. This is one of my favorite cities in the world. Something about the culture here draws me in. Very different than Paris of course. But nonetheless one of my favorite places to visit.

Big Ben – Finally not covered by scaffolding

My favorite things (lube, toys, etc.)

A collection of the things I like for you bottoms out there. Some are for hole prep and training. Some are for during sex. Some are for after sex. Are some people going to disagree with this list? Of course! That’s not the point. These are the things after years of experimenting I’ve found, people that I’ve had sex with, like the best.

Some of these things are not cheap. You can get cheaper versions (especially the sex sheets) there’s no doubt in that. But you’ll find they don’t last as long nor feel as good. Cheap toys and the cheap materials they are made out of can cause chemical burns, in your ass! No one wants that. You’ve experienced buying a cheaper version of something in other areas of your life and then eventually just buying the better thing. So don’t waste money and just get the best. After all that’s the whole point of creating this list. So you know what, in my experience, many people enjoy out of all the things out there.

These buttplugs really are super comfortable. Comfort is key when you’re starting out and training your body to relax on larger sized things. 😜

https://www.mr-s-leather.com/silicone-worlds-most-comfortable-butt-plug-wmcbp

Or for those who prefer a vibrating version:

https://www.mr-s-leather.com/vibrating-wmcbp

An incredible cleaning out tool. Perfect for beginners. It can also be used for travel so you don’t have to take tools to install your cleaning tool.

https://perfectfitbrand.com/xplay-pro-shower-douche.html

Simply the best lube. It’s 100% silicone so it doesn’t get sticky. Most other silicone lubes have additives. And it’s safe on your toys (CHECK YOUR SPECIFIC TOY FOR COMPATIBILITY)

https://www.mr-s-leather.com/mr-s-bodyglide-premium-silicone-lube

The BEST sex sheets out there period. All the others I’ve tried do not feel nice on the skin and don’t last. They don’t feel cold either and instantly adjust to your body temperature.

https://www.mr-s-leather.com/fitted-fuck-sheet-full

Another great toy to get your body used to larger sized things. However this is for more advanced users or to be used with the guidance of experts. Know anyone like that? 😜😘😈

https://www.mr-s-leather.com/crackstuffers-deep-plug

The best vibrator I’ve found. I’ve tried many. This one is ALWAYS a hit. If you’re a beginner you should definitely have someone else who is experienced with ass play use it on you.

https://www.lelo.com/loki-wave

This is fantastic lube for assplay. With any assplay, even fucking with larger sized appendages, Fisting lube can make the experience MUCH more comfortable. Don’t get bogged down in the fact that it’s usually used for Fisting.

https://secure.leatherwerks.com/cgi-bin/commerce.cgi?preadd=action&key=10914

This toy is definitely not for amateurs. The feeling is very unique according to my bottoms and feels amazing. It’s a lot like having the head of a dick go in and out of your hole over and over again.

https://www.mr-s-leather.com/square-peg-toys-worm-supersoft-bronze

This one I discovered by chance years ago…. Outside of your hole sore from getting fucked? Nipples raw from nipple play? This is the best thing for it. This is not Vaseline! There are very different ingredients in this. You’ll find if you use this, you’ll be ready for play again in hours, not days.

https://www.aquaphorus.com/healing-ointment-1_75oz-tube/

Advice for cleaning out and some tool recommendations

Yeah this is a long post. Unfortunately this isn’t an easy process to describe but it’s important enough to dedicate some time to and learn and understand how to do it properly. It will absolutely improve your experience bottoming. So here goes…

I’ve seen a lot of posts and videos on the web about cleaning out. Various techniques and tools. My experience over the years with all sorts of different types of guys, with different body types, different diets and in different types of play tells me that there’s no one right way to clean out. Everyone is different is many other ways, this is no exception. But if you know a few simple things about the body and how it works it can help you understand better what’s right for you to get the best results.

If you’ve been using a fleet enema or a bulb to clean out. It’s probably time to switch it up and go with a more advanced tool. While the fleet bottle and bulbs can work for getting fucked by some dicks. To take larger sized dicks and be sure you’re not going to make a mess, you need a shower douche.

The bulbs and fleet enema bottles barely clean out the anus. The anus is barely large enough for an average sized dick. So if you make it a habit of taking dicks larger than 5”, you owe it to yourself and your partner to upgrade. And don’t mistake this for a post shaming dirty bottoms. It’s about comfort for both you and your partner because being dirty can abrate your hole and your partner’s dick. Ouch! That’ll put a quick end to any fun.

I really recommend reading up on how your digestive system works, mainly on the large intestine and the rectum.

If you use the “shower shot” option be VERY careful. This is not for amateurs. You may decide later on that it’s better for you, but I don’t recommend it to start. Using the X-Play douche first will help you understand how to douche safely and without causing pain or cramping. Most people really are not in touch with their bodies (yes I’m talking to you 😉 ). The X-Play will help assist with that journey. And in the process you’ll have fewer accidents caused by too much water, cramping, pain, etc.

The best recommendation I’ve heard is to start on the toilet with a bidet and then progress to the shower douche. You can get the bulk of the cleaning done in a relaxed position on the toilet and then do the deeper cleaning in the shower. Bonus points if you have a squatty potty at your toilet.

https://www.squattypotty.com

On the toilet you’ll likely clean out the rectum mostly and then maybe some of the sigmoid colon as well. Keep in mind that when you clean out the rectum and/or the sigmoid colon that more material may come down from further up. That’s normal for most people in my experience. Also keep in mind that putting too much water up there can cause cramping. So take it easy the first few times and experiment. Definitely try experimenting several times before you go to have anal sex. Relax your body. Some people play relaxing music. For most people keeping your torso upright and squatting in the shower while using the cleaning tool of your choose is the best option. As you experiment and learn you’ll figure out what’s best for you. It’s very important for you to be comfortable and relaxed otherwise you’ll trap water up there and then that’ll cause a mess.

Every body is different so you’ll need to experiment with it. This is generally not something you learn overnight.

This is by far the best cleaning out tool I’ve found. It’s perfect for beginners to advanced . The pressure at the nozzle is always just right to avoid irritation and cramping. It’s easy to take with you when you travel. No tools are needed to install it. It’s made of silicone which’s makes it durable and long lasting.

https://perfectfitbrand.com/xplay-pro-shower-douche.html

Fiber is also another key to cleaning out. Some of you are about to say, “But I get a lot of fiber in my diet and I eat healthy.” Yeah that may be true, as is true for me. But the types of fiber you get and when you take the fiber all matters too. If you’re living in the United States it’s highly likely you don’t get enough of the right kinds of fiber. The food in the US, even some seemingly “healthy” foods have preservatives and other ingredients that can be irritants to your digestive tract. A good fiber supplement that I know works well is Pure for Men.

https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B07CYNYLPB/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_9YCA96EXWH7MSP8N5P2Q

Fiber helps to bind together things traveling through your digestive tract which makes it much easier cleaning. It also prevents those things from moving quickly down your digestive tract when you’re bottoming.

Please don’t starve yourself for days prior. Some people will do intermittent fasting prior but not eating at all is not the right solution. You can absolutely eat if you following the tips above and some other simple rules.

Too much of a good thing is not a good thing. Eating more than a daily recommended serving of most fruits and vegetables will irritate your digestive track. The best reference for how much of each is a good maximum daily intake is the FODMAP Diet or iOS App or Android App.

It takes about 2-5 days, and for some people less depending on the person, for food to move through your digestive track. This is why you should avoid any drinks and foods, for the two to five days prior, that are irritants for your system. You know best which foods these are but here are some examples:

  • Milk products of any kind
  • Fast Food
  • High sodium foods
  • Processed foods of any kind
  • Candy, baked goods, sweets, any foods high in sugar
  • Artificial sweeteners not from plants; eg. aspartame, saccharin, sucralose etc
  • No curry or spicy foods
  • No fatty foods
  • No quinoa
  • Foods with whole seeds (they don’t digest fully)

Some examples of foods that people will eat, in sensible portions, before bottoming. A sensible portion is about the size of your fist. Use that as a guide for the size of your meal several hours before bottoming:

  • Non dairy meal substitutes/protein shakes with low sugar or natural sugar substitutes
    • You can make a plant protein smoothies at home. You can find many pre-made protein drinks at Whole Foods, Sprouts or many other natural/health food markets.
    • Natural sugar substitutes; stevia, allulose, etc. I’ve found allulose to be the best as it has zero after taste.
  • white rice
  • plain chicken (no butter, oil etc)

Don’t forget to subscribe to updates on the site so you’ll get updates to this post. I’ll update the list of safe foods for bottoming and other parts of the post over time.

I’d categorize the rest of this as “nice to have”

  • When using a soap to clean up your body afterwards, use one that has a mild smell or no smell at all. A lot of people are allergic or turned off by strong perfume scents. A lot fewer guys are turned on my strong perfume scents and if they are they’ll likely tell you and ask you to wear a specific scent. Put this in the category better safe than sorry.